“Hold on, what do you mean you don’t know? Even after all of those tests, you still don’t have any answers as to why we can’t get pregnant?”
This is probably crossed your mind after being told you have unexplained infertility. Approximately one in five couples will be diagnosed with unexplained infertility even after going through a complete fertility work-up.
There’s an intense emotional response to hearing, “There is no apparent reason for your infertility”. It can be difficult, maddening and equally frustrating for both you and your partner. People who do find out a specific cause find their situations difficult, too, of course, but knowing the “whys” makes it more bearable. In cases of unexplained infertility, couples feel that one reason, one cause is lurking in a shadowy corner. It just hasn’t been uncovered yet.
So now what? First is knowing that some diseases and medical conditions defy explanation. They just happen. The term “unexplained infertility” really reflects the present limitations of medical science. The fact is that current technology does not have the tools for revealing the cause of your infertility.
There are some next steps you can take. Consider a second opinion. There’s nothing wrong a fresh pair of eyes on your charts and your data. If there has been a long gap of time between a semen analysis and or a post coital test, this should be repeated since results do change over time.
It is extremely difficult for those with unexplained infertility to know when to stop looking for a cause, to say “enough is enough.” You may feel you are entering a state of limbo. You may feel stuck unable to grieve and get on with other options because you hang on to those slender threads of hope that the cause of your infertility will be revealed in the next test or treatment. Your sadness may intensify as time passes and you find no medical or emotional resolution. Consider finding a Support Group or Mental Health Professional in your area.